Becker Institute Testimonials
Thanks for asking! Things
are going great! In fact, Chad is off his one month grounding today. In that time he managed to
bring all of his grades up. When we met with you he had a 2.0 GPA and now he has a 2.8.
He knows he can get at least a 3.0 and has made it his goal. He said he's proud of
himself. His attitude has been great too. He tells us that this last time
he got caught made him realize how stupid he's being. He says he knows it was wrong
and that he loves his life and his freedom too much to risk it again. So, we'll see....we
will stick to our "Expectations" and keep reminding him. Sean and I both read your book. You
have really broken down the basics of parenting and drug influence. It's a scary reality. I
feel better having a plan. Before, I felt so much pressure to keep him away from drugs and
didn't have the slightest clue how I was going to do that. Grounding him was my only
control. But I knew that was just putting off the inevitable. Your
suggestions just make sense. We wrote out our expectaions and went over them with
both boys. I'll attach them in case you want to see them. Feel free to
We are still having issues
with the younger one and his regular "memory loss". That boy constantly forgets to do his
chores (even though they are on the frig, on his bedroom wall and is reminded by mom and dad).
Losing his privileges doesn't seem to help him remember. I was so disappointed I had to
miss your last seminar on privileges. Between both boys' football schedules
and getting sick, it's impossible to plan anything right now. If you
wouldn't mind letting me know the next time you are going to be speaking, I would love to
go. Or maybe I
should just purchase the cds.
Hi Mr. Becker,
I don't know if you will remember me or not but I met you and your
Grandson at the bay several weeks ago. I was there with a bunch of nurses having a memorial for one
of our patients. Anyway, you gave me some ideas of how to potty-train my son, and I wanted to let
the results. I bought all the toys and put them into the 2
It took the first hour for him to realize how easy it was to get a toy :
) I did not have the stamina to remind him every hour, however, he reminded me each time he had to
go. At first it was just urine but now he is using the potty for stool too. You estimated a week to
a month, but truly it worked in a day for the most part. We had several weeks of accidents and
wanting diapers but he is doing pretty well now. He is so proud of himself - I know it sounds crazy
but I think his self esteem has had a kick start in other areas too (swimming lessons, dressing
So thank you from the bottom of my heart for your suggestions - our
household is so much more peaceful! (now if you can just get him to listen to me better - ha-ha)
Have a great day!
Happy New year! I hope all is well with you and your family.
I wanted to share one of many example's of the difference you make. Thank you
for coming to our school, you were very well received. Last night at a book group for PRS a woman
who attended your lecture raved about the difference your work made in her life. She said that
after she did the homework about entitlement and necessities, there was a complete turn around with
her kids and it stuck!
That's all for now,
A most sincere and heartfelt thank you for the recent two trainings held at Pacific Ridge. My
husband, Hubert, and I are very grateful to you for sharing your tools, experience and knowledge.
For us, the timing was perfect. I had been looking for answers and alternatives to our home issues,
which certainly weren't healthy, harmonious or effective. We found the exercises and homework
valuable and helpful.
We have already tried a few of your techniques and so far, so good. We will keep working on
ourselves, our attitudes, responses and will refer to the notes, often, I am sure.
You mentioned that you would send us information about allowances for children. We would appreciate
receiving that information.
We intend to look at the products available on the website, so that we can continue educating
Catherine Mowbray Lorenz
Communication Tools for Success
San Diego, California, USA
Thanks for the excellent workshop. You said we could email you if we
wanted more information on flying united. I'm the task manager in the house and quite
structured and overall our kids are doing well. My husband is very spur of the moment, not
structured, not time sensitive, and much more the creative hang loose type. The kids usually
don't play us off each other, but he and I will get into arguments about how rigidly to
follow structured rules. Since I'm around more, the house is usually very structured, but my
husband feels that I'm creating too much stress in the family by insisting on structured
times when he is around (which I will admit that my husband, 14 yr old daughter, and 12 year
old son all prefer to have things more relaxed). We both agree that this system has helped
our daughter a lot, but both of us worry that our son struggles with capability issues
because of the structure at times. Could you email me the flying united handouts that you did
not get to?
Also, they were out of the parent quiz after the meeting. Could you send me a document with that
too? Thanks again.
Thank you for the good information. Yes, you had many interested parents last night, but we all
need our reminders and new techniques, and yes again, kids change. Another parent reminded me of
another handout I didn't have: the parent quiz.
My husband and I were lucky enough to see your presentation last night at Pacific Ridge. (We were
the ones sitting in the front row right in front of you!) We were so impressed with your
comments... I personally went away feeling very hopeful and empowered. I would like my life at home
to be more positive and my home to be a place where family members could feel safer. I am dealing
with a 14 year old daughter who is very challenging to us...
Could you please forward the materials from the first presentation you made? We missed it. I am
very interested in the quiz that you mentioned yesterday. Also, please forward information 1)
regarding allowance; 2) flying United and my question would be 3) how do you deal with a child
who's room ALWAYS looks like a hurricane hit it?
Thank you again for a most interesting evening. I look forward to hearing from you.
Hi Mr. Becker,
I just attended your presentation at Pacific Ridge School and very much enjoyed it. I've heard you
speak several other times, but it really helps to have a refresher course. Also, I was glad that my
husband had the opportunity to hear your techniques.
You didn't get a chance to go over allowance and chores and I would like some information on what
you recommend. Could you please send me your information?
Also, I have one quick question about your technique for solving sibling fights. After you send the
kids outside to "work it out", what do you do when one child says "he's" solved the problem and
he's ready to come back in, but the other one, (his younger sister) is still upset and not
satisfied with the resolution? I've tried sending them both back outside, but the conflict just
escalates. Do they both need to agree on a resolution, or is it okay to have them disagree and
still mad at each other, as long as they don't fight?
Thanks for your help.
Thank you for your encouraging talk tonight. While your points may seem to be common sense (coming
as the happy child of solid, no-nonsense Midwest parents), our parent response certainly does get
mixed up with emotion, and strays from the ideal reaction. Unfortunately I was unable to attend
your first talk, but certainly would appreciate the handouts from that evening. Based on my notes
from tonight, those would include the homework sheets, and the privilege vs. entitlement.
I would also like your sheets regarding allowances and united parenting.
Again thank you for the good information, and I look forward to refining our parenting style for
the better. I'll keep you posted, probably more good stories from our 10-year old, rather than our
14-year old; however, we couldn't ask for much more or better from either girl at this point. We
aim to keep it that way.
Thank you for sharing your experience to help parents and children.
I saw you speak at ECC near the end of the school year and was really
moved and motivated by your presentation. I just don't think enough people have gotten the
chance to hear you speak. I am interested in bringing your voice and expertise to a much
wider audience if you are interested. I have a real passion for sharing positive information
especially as it relates to kids. I currently own a preschool but have three children of my
own. One of my children is going to middle school this year in Encinitas. I just thought you
were a totally dynamic speaker. You have something special. I think that there are several
ways we could get your message out BIG if you wanted to. I totally see you on OPRAH. There
are just some things we would need to expand on. (web site, books, ..etc..) I am really
interested in marketing the whole Becker Institute. I would definitely start by putting
together several local hosting groups in Encinitas. Please let me know if you are interested
in getting your message out there.
I think you ROCK and I would like to help you share your message.
Heather Addy Crider
Hi Fred, thank you for your e-mail. We have been using lots of the
tools you suggested and feel an improvement overall already! We both are working on the
positive (no negatives)…it’s rather refreshing for me! I did find myself “helping” her a few
times and then realized I was telling her what she should be doing…I later apologized to
Ashley – it’s hard for me to keep quiet (when I think I’m actually helping but now realize
it’s not) but I will get there! Amazing to me, I gave her a hug one day and the next day she
ASKED for a hug!! It made me ask myself when did I STOP doing this with her – just
interesting to me that I think I’m positive, loving, etc., but it’s like this huge barrier
had been created between us and just in this little bit of time I do feel like …I guess it’s
mainly that the communication is coming back or rather that Ashley feels she can talk to us
again and I feel like I don’t have to be “mean”/negative!
Also, had another one of her didn’t take her meds/drank – wasn’t sure
what to do and originally thought she didn’t have her meds with her when she was staying at
someone else’s house. So gave her the What Happened sheet to complete, have not yet discussed
it with her – actually didn’t realize she had drank until she completed the sheet, so I found
that interesting, and she put as the solution to not drink again…humm..that would be great
but I think her answer is just that – a way to “satisfy” her parents?
We are still at the beginning stages of making a plan and hope to
complete by the end of this week!!
Thank you again Fred, both Dick & I are implementing your
suggestions and I have to say the “schedule” has been more challenging than expected, but
that has been really good for Dick & myself already!!
I am one of the many you spoke with today at Pacific Rim Elementary
and really got a lot out of your presentation. I had to share with you my experience this
afternoon. My three boys got home from school and we all made a snack together chatting. They
sat down with their popcorn and two of them immediately started arguing over the comics
section of the newspaper. I calmly said that they needed to go outside and resolve this. They
looked confused and I repeated the same words. As the younger boys were heading out the door,
my non-involved son said “that is a really great idea!”
Next thing I know they are back and I repeated “You need to go
outside to resolve this between yourselves.” Before they even got to the front door, they had
resolved it and were back sharing the comics between them munching on popcorn. Now, I know
this is not instantaneous, but that felt pretty darn good. I will continue to implement and
actually look forward to the next argument so we can try this again. Maybe I can even get
them all the way outside next time.
I thank you for your suggestions and want you to know that one family
will definitely be better off with your reminders of positive energy and
With Sincere Thanks,
My husband and I attended a series by Fred Becker several years ago
in Vista, California. At that time, our boys were only 4 and 1, and though we found the
information very informative, we really weren’t able to utilize as much of it as we would
have liked due to their ages. HOWEVER, the boys are now 8 and 5, and we are having a lot of
difficulty with our 8 year old. We are dealing with issues of disrespect, lack of personal
responsibility, poor sportsmanship and other qualities we DO NOT want to see as he grows into
his teenage years.
We would be VERY interested in attending another workshop, however
the problem is that a little over 2 years ago, we moved to Texas. The boys and I will be
coming to California to visit the first 2 weeks of August. Are there ANY workshops planned
during that time in the San Diego area?? If not, does Fred EVER do a personal session with
parents? I am truly at my wits end and my husband and I were so impressed by Fred, we REALLY
hope there is something we can work out.
Thank you so much,
I just wanted to thank you for the opportunity to attend Mr. Becker's workshops these past weeks. I
have already seen a calming change at home with the girls, the family and our marriage. THANK
I am the Mentor mom for this MOPS group. I have raised our four
children and our foster granddaughter who is now 19 years old. We have 13 grandchildren, and
I did licensed day care in our home for 32 years. I feel you are right on, and provide a
needed voice and coach for today’s families. Thank You!
When parenting styles vary so much between parents how can values be
changed and styles blended to create one style?
You were amazing. Thank you so much. God has used you to open my eyes
in so many ways with my son and I am forever grateful
I am a parent of a four year old and a second grade teacher. Your
talk confirmed what we are going at home and how I run my classroom. Thank you so much! I
wish all my friends and students parents could get this message.
I really enjoyed this presentation. I have so many questions about my
son who was diagnosed with ODD and medication is an issue
I learned some tools to make life with my seven year old grand
daughter much easier to live with.
I liked the way the information was presented and explained. Basic
and logical. A fairlt lean class, which is to the point. This is appreciated because most
classes seem to be padded with lots of useless “fluff”.
Outstanding presentation, the basis are so real, very honest and
straight forward. This should be a mandatory class for all new parents.
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you! I appreciate your clear, concise
presentation. Not only did everything you said hit home and make sense but you also gave us
lots of tools to work with. I know my family will all benefit from what I have learned
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